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Discovering that your child may be self-harming can feel frightening, confusing, and deeply overwhelming. Many parents immediately ask themselves: Why would my child do this? or What have I missed? But self-harm is rarely about attention-seeking or manipulation. More often, it is a coping strategy, a way for a young person to manage emotional pain that feels unbearable, confusing, or impossible to express. In When Your Child Self Harms, Natasha Devon and contributors explore

When a child’s behaviour challenges us, whether it’s aggression, withdrawal, running away, or complete shutdown, it’s easy to feel confused, frustrated, or even personally targeted. But behaviour is almost always about survival, not sabotage. Children are not trying to manipulate, control, or make life difficult. They are responding to something that feels unsafe, overwhelming, or out of their control. When we begin to see behaviour through this lens, our responses and the ou

If you’re supporting a child who can’t go to school, you’ve probably heard phrases like: “They just need to go in.” “You have to be firmer.” “They’ll be fine once they’re there.” But what if none of that fits your child? What if the truth is much harder, and much more important to understand? Can’t vs Won’t One of the most important things to understand is this: Can’t and won’t are not the same thing. When a child won’t go to school, it suggests choice.When a child can’t

Recently, my work has led me to reflect deeply on the concept of Physis. The growing… in spite of… Eric Berne, founder of Transactional Analysis, interpreted it as the life force within each person-drawing from Heraclitus, who saw Physis as the power of transformation emerging from the soul. In nature, it’s the unseen energy that pushes a seed to sprout and break through even the hardest concrete. In everyday life, Physis is the inner drive that propels us to evolve, adapt, a